What Other People Think About You is None of Your Business

(happy music) – The other day I got a
note from a thank you note from a reader who was going
through a really tough time. She had just gotten her
Master’s degree in nutrition, and was planning on
opening a wellness center in her town, which is awesome. There was just one problem. A local doctor felt
threatened and told her not to compete with her, to only offer services that wouldn’t conflict. In this doctor’s mind, there
wasn’t room for both of them. There wasn’t room for both their dreams. Naturally my reader was really upset, I mean, who wouldn’t be? She felt totally discouraged,
and worse, she started believing the doctor, and
not believing in herself. But the very next day,
she got my newsletter. And in it, I talked about
the importance of pursuing your dreams and contributing
to people’s well being. Boom. In that moment, she decided
to ignore that doctor and share her gifts with the world. Here’s some wise advice I’ll
pass on from a friend of mine. What other people think about
you is none of your business. It has nothing to do with you. In fact the only thing that matters, is what you think about you. What you think about your dreams. Or who you love, or how you live, or how you contribute to the world. That’s what matters. Your healthy opinion of you. If I made decisions based on critics, I wouldn’t get much done. In fact, I’d be sucking my
thumb in the corner back there. If I followed the stern
orders of how other people think I should take care of
my health, or what I should and shouldn’t write about, or
what I should and shouldn’t teach, or how I should and
shouldn’t feel, and so on, I’d limit what I share with the world, and that wouldn’t help
me, or the people I love. Like you guys. Now that’s not to say
that there isn’t a place for constructive feedback. There is, and I’m often open to it. But it depends on the
source and the intention behind the words. Because I’m gonna tell you something. I can smell phony constructive
feedback a mile away. Because underneath it
all, it’s still meant to clip my wings and keep me small. So that’s not constructive. And that’s not feedback that I take. Remember, negative people will be cranky. And negative people are often acting from their own fears and wounds. So while we can often
have compassion for them, we don’t need to listen too them. So don’t let those cranky pants sow seeds of doubt and block your potential. Bless them and send them to the light. So that you don’t have to drag their tired asses around in your head. Now if this is coming from someone you truly value, certainly hear them. Perhaps through their
insights, there’s a valuable nugget that can help you
overcome a potential obstacle. Just remember that their
feelings aren’t facts. Let them know you deeply
appreciate their love and concern, but you’ve got this. But on the other hand,
if it’s an online troll who can hide behind
anonymity, just let it go. These people are deeply
wounded and feel powerless. And hurting strangers is their
way of trying to feel better. And if I get some nasty
comments for saying this, you can bet your bottom that
I won’t take it personally. You know why? It’s none of my business. – [Woman] Amen! – So you do you. Let them be them. And just keep rocking your
awesomeness and your dreams. So now it’s your turn. How would your life improve if you weren’t so worried about what
other people thought? Or if you have advice for how to handle criticism, let us know. Leave a comment below. I hope this serves you and
helps you live like you mean it. Helps you be brave and share more of your true self and talents. Remember to go to kriscarr.com and sign up for my newsletter,
it’s filled with tips and treasures to help you
supercharge your life, plus free gifts just
for you, see you soon. (mellow music)

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36 thoughts on “What Other People Think About You is None of Your Business

  1. Kriss, I feel your energy eminate all the way to Australia 😄 Luv your msg … Made me think of Marianne Williamson's poem. Always make me feel strong … Hope its ok to share:

    "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. 
    Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. 
    It is our light, not our darkness
    That most frightens us.

    We ask ourselves
    Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
    Actually, who are you not to be? 
    You are a child of God.

    Your playing small 
    Does not serve the world. 
    There's nothing enlightened about shrinking 
    So that other people won't feel insecure around you.

    We are all meant to shine, 
    As children do. 
    We were born to make manifest 
    The glory of God that is within us.

    It's not just in some of us; 
    It's in everyone.

    And as we let our own light shine, 
    We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. 
    As we're liberated from our own fear, 
    Our presence automatically liberates others".
    Note: This inspiring quote is taken from Marianne Williamson's book A Return to Love.

  2. Perfect timing for me to watch such a great video, Kriss! It's serendipity at its best when things you ponder over, materialize in so nicely-wrapped form from a person you trust and admire. Kriss Carr, you are an incredible source of inspiration for me. I've read your book and become an avid fan of smoothy-making 🙂 as well many other important things I knew from your work.You are a game-changer, indeed! Lots of love and gratitude from Petersburg.

  3. What people say and feel is their stuff. What you feel about what they say is your stuff.
    You can’t run away from yourself.
    Treat everyone with love and kindness as they are your mirrors to know yourself.
    Just smile at people and breath.
    You should always feel good about yourself at the end of a day.
    Always work on yourself that Is your journey. To know yourself and love unconditionally that person in the mirror. 💖

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  5. Just what I needed! I'm back from my home country, visiting family and friends. I'm fed up of comments on my weight, clothes and childfree status. I come back doubting myself.

    Thank you, Kris! Xoxo

  6. You rock! Live your why and don't listen to the noise of the naysayers. I recall Wayne Dyer saying once you can't do anything about your reputation that's something others determine about you, all you have to ever worry about is your character. Do you and be proud of YOU.

  7. I heard the best saying at a workshop years ago. The speaker said at the end of her speech, "Don't should on yourself and don't let other people should on you, either!!!"

  8. Whenever you said: "Bless them and send them to the light" I imagined myself kicking someone's ass and simultaneously saying "Be blessed and now off to the light with you!"

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